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It bothers me when people say his head isn't that flat. It shouldn't, I should be elated, but it does.
It makes me question our decision to have him fitted for the helmet. It makes me question the competence of our pediatrician. It makes me question my eyesight.
I keep second guessing myself. Are we doing the right thing? Should we just let him grow up the way he is? He's perfect in our eyes anyways, flat head or not.
If we do that, will he hate us for not fixing it? Can he wear a baseball cap like his daddy? Will he be able to shave his head without looking like a dork? Will other kids make fun of him?
What if it gets better on it's own? What if it gets worse?
I'm seriously driving myself insane because of those few little words. I'd love for someone just to say "You know what, it is pretty flat. You're doing the right thing." And all would be good in the world again.
I swear there won't be any more posts like this. I'm just going through another wave of mommy guilt!
Showing posts with label Guilt. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Guilt. Show all posts
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
Things Left Unsaid...
There's a name for my kid's flat head. I don't think I've mentioned it yet. It's called "Positional Plagiocephaly" (Plagio) or in lamen's terms, "Making Parents Feel Like Failures Since 2009" (MPFLFS2).
When you first meet your little dude or dudette you're told to make sure they sleep on their back. Hey - anything that keeps that dreaded SIDS away is fine by me. On his back he goes.
They don't tell you that you should alternate the side of the crib or bassinet they sleep on every night. Or that you should put mobiles or interesting things to look at on both sides to keep your babe looking back and forth instead of stuck on one side (or in our case, flat on the back of the head).
Then they tell you to make sure you get tummy time in. But they don't tell you what to do if your kid screams blue murder any time he's face down.
They tell you that breast is best, which is cool because you feed from both sides so they're switching back and forth which side of the head they're on. They don't tell you that if you formula feed you should be switching them back and forth in your arms each feed for the same effect.
It's a horrible feeling knowing that things you did or didn't do put your child in the position where they may need some type of medical intervention. It fills you with guilt.
They don't tell you what to do about that either.
When you first meet your little dude or dudette you're told to make sure they sleep on their back. Hey - anything that keeps that dreaded SIDS away is fine by me. On his back he goes.
They don't tell you that you should alternate the side of the crib or bassinet they sleep on every night. Or that you should put mobiles or interesting things to look at on both sides to keep your babe looking back and forth instead of stuck on one side (or in our case, flat on the back of the head).
Then they tell you to make sure you get tummy time in. But they don't tell you what to do if your kid screams blue murder any time he's face down.
They tell you that breast is best, which is cool because you feed from both sides so they're switching back and forth which side of the head they're on. They don't tell you that if you formula feed you should be switching them back and forth in your arms each feed for the same effect.
It's a horrible feeling knowing that things you did or didn't do put your child in the position where they may need some type of medical intervention. It fills you with guilt.
They don't tell you what to do about that either.
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